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  Hey yo! If you're wondering how clothes can actually make you happy, then I can only say I'm glad.  Perhaps you noticed that I was silent here for a while. We could call it a long while. My silence was due to my illness. I was very sick. So much that death might not have been a surprise. And one time, I was in a lot of pain and the thought of death crept into my mind again. It was in this moment that I realised the power of clothes!  Just before I fell ill, I had new clothes made for me. As I was loosing hope and giving up on life, I heard myself think: 'what happens to my clothes if I die?'  Funny as this might sound, my new clothes became a reason to live. You're probably surprised right now, but I tell you, you read right. I wanted to live, so that I could rock my clothes!  Clothes somehow pulled me from misery. As soon as I started to get better, and could get out of bed, I started to wear clothes I kept for special occasions.  There's more. I go...

Life's challenges has made our brain wired to 'survive.' Many believe that happiness is unattainable. No lies, life is full of its ups and downs, and sometimes we can't help but be sad, and that's understandable. But it would be self-destructive to think that it is impossible to live a happy life. Fasten your seat belts as you're about to learn how to stay happy even in sad moments!  1. Be Engrossed in the Positive: This doesn't mean lying to yourself about reality. I t means breaking down a seemingly challenging situation, identifying the pros and cons, and decidi ng to make the best of the moment.  To lead a happy life, you must redirect your thoughts from a negative perspective to a positive one.You can do this by knowing the negatives, but deciding to focus on the positive. Of course you need to look at the negative and figure a way out, but be careful not to become engrossed in the negative. 2 . Exercise regularly: Take this from me, exercise is a gr...

Life is hard. And you do not have to make it harder, by being hard on yourself. I know, sometimes kindness to self seems like a difficult task. And you're mad at yourself for a million reasons. For not winning the game, for not saying the right words, for not standing up for yourself, for being too short-tempered... It's easier to get mad than to show yourself some love. But tell me, where has that gotten you.  The many times you deprived yourself of kindness, you were filled with rage, bitterness. You felt empty.. and tired. Well it's time for a change. From now, you'd look at yourself with mercy. First you must understand that we're all human, and we all make mistakes. Like you, everyone else has had moments they aren't proud of. But each one of us must show ourselves selflove, if we would make the world a better place.  How To Be Kind to Self.    1 . Put the Past in the Past: Really, why have you decided to pull the past with you despite it's heavy weigh...

 I got new slippers. I noticed that I clean it very often. My slippers are so pretty I don't let anyone mess with them. Yes, I clean all my footwear, but I give special attention to these navy blue slippers because I love them.  I give similar care to my phone, my black backpack which I carry almost always. As I watch myself care so much for these things I paid for, and can easily replace, I ask myself why I don't care for myself like I care for my stuff. Funny right? I really can get a prettier navy blue slippers, and another black backpack I'd love, but I'd never get another me, and I love these things more than I love me?  Oh I know you'd tell me I love me a lot, and that's why I get myself pretty stuff, but if I love me, why then have I let my thoughts about myself be an unhealthy place for me? Why do I let myself think that I am not enough? Or that I can never get to the top? Why do I constantly put myself down? Why do I wish I had someone else's face o...

Believe me when I say I know what pain is. Believe me again when I tell you I know what it's like to not want to talk about what hurts. There are over a thousand and five reasons why we do not talk about what hurts inside( I hope you know I just exaggerated). Have I told you to believe me when I tell you I didn't believe the saying: "a problem shared is a problem solved"? Yes, I had the opinion that your problem is still your problem even after you share it. Yes, you read right: I used had, which means I don't think so anymore. Allow me tell you that there are a thousand and five reasons (I'm still exaggerating) why we refuse to talk about what hurts.  Reasons why we do not talk about what hurts We think it's pointless: if you think talking about what hurts is pointless and a waste of time and saliva, then you're thinking the way I used to think. Read the word 'used' again, denotes past tense. It isn't pointless to talk about what hurts. Ke...

THE NEW BRIDE  It was okay for us to sleep in the dark. But I've just been sent to get fuel. The new bride has to sleep fine. It was okay to eat without meat. All that mattered was that we didn't starve. Now chicken has been bought for the new bride to eat rice. We don't need new clothes. It doesn't matter that mama's wrapper is faded and worn out. But we have to get new clothes for the new bride. Mama has not sat in papa's car for years. Now the new bride sits in the front seat of papa's car. They are going out.  Papa used to take us out on weekends. Then he started to have busy weekends.  Now I understand why. Papa never gave enough money to buy food. Mama, a good woman, managed whatever little he gave. This has been the ritual for years. The new bride is here and spends a lot of money. She is called classy. Mama is called cheap. We drink garri for lunch. The new bride eats good food for lunch. She's meant to enjoy, we were made to suffer. It doesn...

There you are, all by yourself, Trapped in a box beneath. Feeling sad that you're all alone Because it's just you and your deeds. Wishing with you there was another soul With whom you won't compete. That way, you won't be lone  And surely, you'd be complete. But you know your wish won't come true Because for you it's the end of the road. Now you wonder who'll see you through, You see no one, and then you mope. By your garden you should have been buried, so that its fragrance you smell, and its green you see. By an ocean, so that its splash you hear, and its breeze you feel. Beneath a tree, so that its fruit you eat, and the heat you wouldn't feel. Then you think again... The beauty of it all is above. Now your heart is filled with pain... Because you're trapped right there - below. Your eyes are filled with terror  As you await a day unknown. A day when there will be no error, The day the trumpet will be blown. Zaynerb