Kindness to Self

Life is hard. And you do not have to make it harder, by being hard on yourself. I know, sometimes kindness to self seems like a difficult task. And you're mad at yourself for a million reasons. For not winning the game, for not saying the right words, for not standing up for yourself, for being too short-tempered... It's easier to get mad than to show yourself some love. But tell me, where has that gotten you. 

The many times you deprived yourself of kindness, you were filled with rage, bitterness. You felt empty.. and tired. Well it's time for a change. From now, you'd look at yourself with mercy.

First you must understand that we're all human, and we all make mistakes. Like you, everyone else has had moments they aren't proud of. But each one of us must show ourselves selflove, if we would make the world a better place. 

How To Be Kind to Self.  

1. Put the Past in the Past: Really, why have you decided to pull the past with you despite it's heavy weight? You get strength o! 

Understand that the past is in the past and you must let it go! Yes you've made mistakes, mistakes makes us human. We're all going to mess up sometimes so chill. Instead of being sad over the past, ask yourself, "how can I make things better?" Then do just that. If there's nothing you can do about it, then don't beat yourself up about it, and just move on! 

2. Accept Change: Change is the only thing that's constant in life. And the earlier you accept that, the earlier you can adapt to change. Stop wishing you could have a moment back. Accept that that moment is over and focus on now. Ask yourself, "how can I make the most of this moment?" and do just that!

3. Think Positive Thoughts Only: You shouldn't underestimate the power of this really. Imagine this: you wake up, and look in the mirror, and say to yourself, "I'm so fat, I look so horrible" And there's me who looks at the mirror and says, "girl, your bum looks so great! you'd look like a goddess if you get rid of that belly fat." 

Do you know what just happened? My thoughts just made me love my body, not only that, it motivated me to improve my look! The both of us would step out fat, but there'd be you who'd be sad, and me who'd be happy and confident!

4. Say Kind Words to Yourself: Try this, instead of saying, "I'm a failure," when you don't do well in a test, say instead, "I tried my best. I'd do better next time." 

Instead of saying, "I'd never find true love." say instead, "I might have had my heart broken several times, but when the time is right, I'd find someone who would love me in all the right ways. Till then, and after, I'm going to shower myself with so much love!

5. Ask Yourself Loving Questions: Questions like, "how are you?'' or, "how do I feel today?" "What do I need right now? What special thing can I do for myself today? How can I spoil myself today? What should I try out today?

If this was helpful, please let me know in the comments, and share this post with your friends and family. I'd be happy to read from you. If there are you know ways to be kind to self that are not in this writeup, please share with us in the comments.