Zaynerb

Life is hard. And you do not have to make it harder, by being hard on yourself. I know, sometimes kindness to self seems like a difficult task. And you're mad at yourself for a million reasons. For not winning the game, for not saying the right words, for not standing up for yourself, for being too short-tempered... It's easier to get mad than to show yourself some love. But tell me, where has that gotten you.  The many times you deprived yourself of kindness, you were filled with rage, bitterness. You felt empty.. and tired. Well it's time for a change. From now, you'd look at yourself with mercy. First you must understand that we're all human, and we all make mistakes. Like you, everyone else has had moments they aren't proud of. But each one of us must show ourselves selflove, if we would make the world a better place.  How To Be Kind to Self.    1 . Put the Past in the Past: Really, why have you decided to pull the past with you despite it's heavy weigh...

Friendship, no doubt is beautiful, but can sometimes be harmful to businesses. Many are faced with the challenge of turning down non profitable business offers from friends. We often find it difficult to say no to friends that want to buy goods on credit or friends that want our services for free because they are 'friends.' Some youths today strive hard to learn skills that boosts their financial status, other youths seem to fancy the title 'CEO'. Are you really running your business on a purpose or are you running it for the sake of naming yourself  a CEO (YOUNG CEO), the popular trend. If truly you are running your business on a specific purpose, then you need to read this. Truly, family and friends are the first set of people you run to in order to patronize you and refer people. They are the ones you tag best customers because they are  believed and expected to make your business grow. Unfortunately, these are people who will sometimes want you to sell to them on cr...

Whether or not we choose to admit it, we all want to be liked. It is no news that it can be frustrating if you can't get a single person to like you. Imagine living life without a few people to talk with or hang out with. Imagine being by yourself for the rest of your life - no talks, no friends, no fun. Boring right? So you've been battling with not being liked, or maybe people already like you, but you want to be more intentional about getting people to like you. Here are a few tips to get people to like you: Smile.  One easy way to get people to like you, is to smile often. Have you noticed that kids that smile have more adults that carry and play with them? When you smile, you spread warmth, and you make people comfortable with you. Smiling shows people that they're welcomed and you wouldn't mind their company. So next time you go friend hunting, be sure to wear a smile. Be Approachable. It's easy to get people to like you if you're easy to approach. By easy...

By Zaynerb I was on my phone reading a post. Now I've been listening to her talking about how hurt she is and how much pain she's been through. As she poured her heart out, I made sure to put my phone away to listen to her speak. I did this to make her comfortable and to assure her she had my attention. And as she spoke, I didn't speak, I only listened. Soon she stopped talking. And I said; "may Allah ease our task".  I thought it was all over and maybe she still doesn't entirely feel good, but she certainly feels better. After all I gave her attention. As she lay down to rest I went back to my phone. It was really quiet and I was unsuspecting. Unconsciously, I looked at her and I didn't notice it at first. She was staring at the ceiling and I kept looking at her. That was when I noticed the tear that rolled down her eyes. I knew that tear very well. Tear that comes silently but bears the heavy weight of immense pain and sadness of the heart. It was te...

Written by: Olawoye Sunday Mayowa In a recent interview with Pastor Poju Oyemade of the Covenant Christian center, Pastor E. A. Adeboye, of the Redeemed Christian Church of God said "make new friends, and keep the old,  one is silver while the other is gold". This statement has further awaken thoughts about friendship and relationship in our age. Our generation is littered with people with little or no friends, some keep a limited friend cycle while others have situational friends. The raging questions in people's hearts are: Why should I have friends at all?  Why should I keep an old friend?  If you ask the question "why should I have friends at all?" This is your answer;  It's a common saying that "if you want to achieve faster, go alone, if you want to achieve faster and go farther, go with a friend."  Friendship is synonymous to having company, while Companionship means having people around to do things in common, think, help an...

When you saw the title of this post, did scenarios of betrayal come to your mind? Well scenarios of betrayal came to my mind because I've been betrayed quite a number of times. Don't worry, I'll tell you about a few of them. Once I was acting all calm and reserved. I didn't want to make it known that I was in dire need of food. In that moment did my stomach decide to growl. It made noise so loud that my hunger was made known to those that were present. I felt betrayed. How could it? How could my stomach betray me like that?? Another time, I was asked if I had gotten medication for catarrh. I replied: "no, I'm fine now". You guessed right. My body chose that moment to let out a sneeze. This is a few among the other times I've been betrayed. The dictionary seems to have several definitions of betrayal. But I like to see betrayal as more of deceit and deliberate  disloyalty. Betrayal involves breaking of trust. You know, a person once said "...

"It's just me, myself and I". This was my status on one of my social media accounts some years back. This saying also played a great role in my life. I was a lone wolf. I didn't have friends and I didn't want friends. I thought I was complete all by myself. I thought I didn't need the company of others. I didn't understand the importance and sweetness of friendship until I got a taste of it. Friendship I realised was the basis of any good relationship. We're course mates and we have a group work together? I realised that it was easier to work on group projects with friends. And that working on group projects became easier and more fun, when my course mates became my friends. Friendship I've realised goes beyond words. Friendship is love. Friendship is patience. Friendship is arguments, it is small fights and it is forgiveness. Friendship is company. Friendship is food when there's famine. Friendship is hope in moments of despair. Friendshi...