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What Friendship Is

"It's just me, myself and I". This was my status on one of my social media accounts some years back. This saying also played a great role in my life. I was a lone wolf. I didn't have friends and I didn't want friends. I thought I was complete all by myself. I thought I didn't need the company of others. I didn't understand the importance and sweetness of friendship until I got a taste of it. Friendship I realised was the basis of any good relationship. We're course mates and we have a group work together? I realised that it was easier to work on group projects with friends. And that working on group projects became easier and more fun, when my course mates became my friends.


Friendship I've realised goes beyond words. Friendship is love. Friendship is patience. Friendship is arguments, it is small fights and it is forgiveness. Friendship is company. Friendship is food when there's famine. Friendship is hope in moments of despair. Friendship is support. Friendship is kindness.

Friendship is a lot more than I have written in this article. So let's do something.. Tell me what friendship is to you in the comment section. And know that I appreciate you for reading this article.

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  1. Friendship is when you don't say how much you love each other every now and then but you mean a lot to one another. Friendship is when you don't mind being wierd with one another. Friendship is when you have memories with one another, so many jokes, tears, sadness those crazy times, silly talks that makes you feel so good when you think about it.
    #letsrevivethevibestogether
    🧕🌹

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    1. Reading your definition of friendship felt like I was reading my thoughts. I totally agree with you.
      Thank you
      #letsrevivethevibestogether

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  2. Friendship is when you understand one another even without a word,the one whose solace you seek. I also don't want to have friends at first but not anymore I guess.

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    1. I'm glad you've tasted the sweetness in friendship. Yes, with friends you don't need to say too much, they know how you feel by looking at you. Thank you for commenting

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  3. I won't lie to you, I'm not a fan of friendship. I love being alone, doing my thing alone so I can blame myself for anything that happens.
    But guess what, a friend is one of the best thing that will ever come to u. He sympathize and empathize with you synchronously during your wins and your falls. Technically, he is a voltage while you are the current.. He stresses himself, strains himself, forces a pathway out for you to pass through all resistance.
    Moreover, when voltage reduces the strength of current depreciates.
    A friend is a source of help to you at every area of your life, treat him well and never act parasitic to him, rather you symbiosis is best..

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    1. Hmmmm. I like the end note. To not be parasitic, very correct. As much as we expect help and support from our friends, we should provide help and support from them too. Thanks for sharing your opinion.

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  4. Zaynab is waxing stronger on daily basis. Baarakallahu feek

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  5. It is actually good to have friends but if and when we need friendship, one should try and have healthy relationship simply because there would be no jealousy, no hatred, or any other negativity. Surround yourself with good friends and be a good friend as well..
    Barokalau fihi dear mama zee

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    1. Bro Mateen? Thank you for commenting. I like that you mentioned to be a good friend. Well you've been a good friend to me, thank you

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  6. Friendship to me is esprit de corps that I believe everyone should embrace esp if the feelings are mutual ..nice piece dear..barakhaAllahu feeh..with love from muhsinah

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    1. Oh baby.. Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You're right, friendship has to be mutual, that's what makes it beautiful

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  7. Life is nothing without friendship, good friends though

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    1. Smiles. I like that you said 'good friends thou'. You're very correct. Bad friends wouldn't let you taste the sweetness of friendship. They deprive one from the benefits of friendship. Thank you for sharing your thoughts

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  8. Looking back, I am seeing times when I was completely fucked up by friends and at the same time remember times I have been bail out of struggling by friends. It depends on what kind of personality the friend has, some people are naturally parasite, some are friends with you base on calculations, but the best is for the friendship to start with love of Allah, if you both meet and part based on love of Allah, I believe that's enough. Human beings will always be human being. Always following ya ma'am

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    1. Thank you for sharing your experience. I must say, I've had my share of bad experience with friends. Some friends have driven me crazy and they had me thinking "why did I give my heart to you? ".

      Saying friendship should be for Allah's sake is very beautiful. I agree with you on that.

      May we be blessed with good friends.

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  9. Well, I don't have friends too, even till now. Though I don't detest having one, it's just me.

    I've worked with couple of people, I still do, and I deeply understand the efficacy of team work - no body has ever achieved any success in isolation.

    However, like you asked, here is what I feel friendship should look like...

    Friendship is that relationship of good influence. You heard of the popular adage "show me your friend and I will define you"? That's what friendship is.

    Friendship to me is loyalty. You also heard of another proverb that says " a friend in need is a friend indeed"? That's what friendship is.

    The list can be endless, but ultimately, for anyone and everyone who is to have one, I expect friendship to be a defined mutually benefiting relationship, one which the party involved intertwine together, just like the block of a building - each one supporting one another. For with this can the sweetness of friendship be experienced.

    Well-done Zainab! You're doing well. Oooinnn #smiles

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    1. Lmao. How you made the smile on my face bright with your last statement. You're doing well too boss.

      I totally agree with you. Your definition of friendship is excellent. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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  10. Friendship to me is Loyalty.
    Someone who tells you the truth. One who celebrate Your Big and small wins.
    One who's always there even when things gets messy.

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    1. Your words about friendship touched my heart deeply. I like how you define friendship. Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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  11. Friendship to me is a stronger form of interpersonal bond marked with respect, care, loyalty and trust...
    Note: Not everyone who posses all aforementioned characteristics are intelligent/brilliant...

    Baarokalah fheekum ZeeZee

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    1. Smiles. Thank you. Aameen.

      I like that you mentioned respect. Respect is important in friendship.
      Thanks for sharing your thoughts

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  12. Like music heard on still waters,
    Like pines when the wind passeth by,
    Like pearls in the deep of the ocean,
    Like stars which enamel the sky,
    Like June and the odor or roses,
    Like dew and the freshness of morn,
    Like sunshine which kisses the clover,
    Like tassels of silk on the corn,
    Like notes of thrush in the woodland,
    Like brooks where violets grown,
    Like rainbows that arch the blue heaven,
    Like clouds when the sun dippeth low,
    Like dreams of Arcadian pleasure
    Like colors which gracefully blend,
    Like everything breathing of pureness,
    Like these is the love of a friend.

    It may not be a course mate, childhood friend or lover, it may be your brother,your mum, Dad, mentor 0r teacher...thinking of them makes u smile to yourself

    Friendship is one of life's greatest treasures.

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    1. Wow. Just wow. I like your poem. You've reminded us also that friendship could come from family. I have to say, one must be friends with family. Friendship is indeed one of life's greatest treasures.
      Thanks for commenting

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  13. This poems are for friends who are lost to death or time.

    Poem by Langston Hughes

    “I loved my friend

    He went away from me

    There’s nothing more to say

    The poem ends,

    Soft as it began-

    I loved my friend.”

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  14. Smiles. Beautiful. This touched my heart. Thank you for sharing this poem

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  15. This is wonderful dear 👍

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  16. Friendship is that thing you lean on, its that vibe that keeps you moving, even when the world seems to be against you, it understands and stays right behind you always.
    Friendship is a sweet thing with the right one, at same time a downfall with the wrong one. Choose wisely coz they can mar or make you.

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  17. Friendship is that thing you lean on, its that vibe that keeps you moving, even when the world seems to be against you, it understands and stays right behind you always.
    Friendship is a sweet thing with the right one, at same time a downfall with the wrong one. Choose wisely coz they can mar or make you.

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    1. Well said. Choose wisely. Very correct. Friends really do play a great role in our lives. Thanks for sharing your thought

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  18. Nice article, keep it up.
    Friendship in summary is what the aforementioned comments had trashed out. Barkallahu fih kum zainab.

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  19. To my own view, friendship is about being honest,loyal, trustworthy, respectful and non-judgemental (you needs friends who make you feel confident about who you are,not people who induce self-doubt. A non-judgemental approach is also one of the characteristics of a good person, generally. Your friends should listen to you and do their best to put themselves in your shoes.

    Barkallahu fihi....from Islamiyyah.
    #let'sfeelthevibestogether.

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    1. These are words of wisdom. Thank you my dear. I'm glad you shared your opinion.

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  20. Friends encourage you to be better, have your back and will stand up for you whether you're there or not. Real friends make life a tad more interesting.

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    1. Interesting I agree, and fun too. Friends can be crazy sometimes and how they bring out the crazy in you sometimes

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  21. I can only say when you meet the best of friends in life you have everything.

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    1. Hmm. This hit me. I totally agree with you

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  22. Friendship.. Hmmm, friends can make you or mar you. Choose them wisely..... More power to your pen and elbow mama zee

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